Step 9: Prepare for Contact

Now you need to find contact information.  Join the DNAAdoption Google Group or other On-line groups for free help.

Prepare yourself by defining what you do and don’t want from your newly found birth relative. Maybe it is just health and family history. Maybe you do want a relationship. They may be concerned you are looking for money or inheritance. If you are not looking for money, tell them so up front. Get help from reputable and experienced people and groups like ours as well as surround yourself with people who can provide emotional support. Don’t rush!

Very Important!  Develop an understanding for the other person. Review DNA & Secrets: Help and Support