Step 10: Making Contact

Don’t go at this alone!  You want to avoid common mistakes that can poison outcomes. Get help from reputable and experienced people and groups like ours.

Choose your method – letter or phone – and get feedback on what you are going to say from our support group. Use the guidance below to help you craft your message

• Before you do it — Making Contact with Adoptees/Birthparents…
• Writing the First Letter to your birth mother (or a sibling)

Once you have reached out, Be Patient. You have been working at this for a long time. They might not be aware at all.  Give them time to process and respond.

Go. Slow.   When in doubt…Go Slower!

Birthparent, birth father, birth mother, sibling, half sibling, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, nibling, grandparent, grandmother, grandfather cousin